Joshua’s Big Hit

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We were at the Danville Little League festival today at Osage. Really fun time with everyone and Joshua got a great big hit.

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The Problem of Avoidance

When I look at my two boys I wonder what they think about their adoption? I wonder what questions do they ask themselves that they just can’t articulate on their own? Being a heavy processor of every event in my life I have to be careful with ‘over asking’ these questions of the boys, however they are important questions for their long term health. So here is a bit of how I try to pay attention without asking too many questions.

I remember learning through my wife that you have to be careful when administering Tylenol during a fever. If you take the Tylenol too early you can mask the fever which is bad because the fever is not the real problem. The body produces fevers in order to route out the disease in our bodies. So in a sense fevers can be a good thing for us and can tell us a lot about our overall health if we listen to them. Let your fevers speak to you.

I remember when we adopted our third child my son, Josh, asked what color she would be, and how he hoped she would be brown like him. I remember we responded by telling him no matter what color she was that we would love her and she would be a part of our family, just like him. He said “okay” and we prayed and went to pick her up.

Later, we remembered to revisit that moment with Josh. That moment was a fever. It was a part of his heart coming out to tell us how he feels about himself. Acceptance is difficult enough when you don’t have obstacles against you. Josh struggles with acceptance like everyone else and a piece of it slipped out that night. It was a good reminder for us to continue to encourage and remind him that we are a family no matter how different we may look from one another.

The truth is that the times we are most likely to avoid each other happens when we mask the symptoms. A joke here, a smile there, a simple “I’m doing okay”. That is why we need to pay attention to the small moments when people leak a verbal comment that speaks to their true heart. Don’t shy away from discussing small comments made by your children, friends, or loved ones. It is often in the little comments, or mean jokes that true hurt is festering. When Jesus taught the disciples to turn the other check when struck; maybe it was so the good ear would be exposed to hear how the person was hurting, because the striking out was merely the symptom.

In the end we all are going to try and avoid talking about pain. It is the influence of sin. Sin teaches us to protect our hearts from vulnerability. Sin teaches us that a stiff upper lip and a proud chest can overcome any internal struggles of our heart. Don’t buy into it. Find a good group of people who love Jesus to share your heart with today.


Adoption Official Next Week

How does God bring families together?

For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, and according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being… (Eph. 3:14-16)

It has been one of the greatest blessings of my life watching God weave our family together one child at a time. Each moment is filled with joy and pain. Adoption always has a bit of both attached. There is something wonderful that happens to each of us in the binding process. It has been one of the clearest working of the Holy Spirit in my life. Taking individual people who are lost in the world and bringing them together to be Christ to one another.

There is going to be moments where Sophia is going to find great joy in being a Marsh. There will be also moments where she will be hurt because of her loss. Through each of those moments my prayer will be that God shows up in a very real sense in her heart. That she will remember that He is her true hope and Savior.

Next Friday will be a wonderful day of blessing as the state confirms the work of the Spirit, but our truest thanks will good to our God who provides richly for each of us.